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Code of Conduct


Barrington Youth Lacrosse (BYL) is committed to providing a safe and fun learning experience for each player. Our program goals are intended to encourage players to succeed on and off the field through team commitment, friendship, skill development, physical fitness, good sportsmanship, respectful behavior, academic achievement, and positive citizenship.

At all times, players, coaches, and parents shall act in a way that demonstrates respect for the game officials, players, coaches, and parents of our teams as well as opposing teams.


Players must adhere to the following rules:

  1. I will "HONOR THE GAME" of lacrosse by practicing good sportsmanship at all times.
  2. I will learn the rules of the game of lacrosse.
  3. I will follow the spirit and letter of the rules and regulations of the game as imposed by IBLA officials.
  4. I will refrain from engaging in unsportsmanlike conduct.
  5. I will refrain from performing disrespectful or harassing acts on the field, as well as through other channels, such as social media. 
  6. I will treat my coaches, opposing coaches, peers, and competitors with respect. 
  7. I will refrain from the use of profanity, poor sportsmanship, and hazing.
  8. I will be a positive role model in terms of attitude, appearance, and behavior.
  9. I will treat facilities and equipment with care and respect. 
  10. I will follow, trust, and commit to the decisions of the coaches.

Unsportsmanlike Conduct: Unsportsmanlike conduct is defined as a player, coach, parent, or spectator who at any time while on field or on the grounds of a lacrosse game or event conducts him- or herself in an abusive, offensive, or illegal manner during game situations or outside of game situations. This includes, but is not exclusive to the following:

  • Fighting
  • Causing property damage at an event site
  • Entering into an argument with an official as to a decision that has been made
  • Attempting in any way to influence the decision of an official 
  • Using threatening, profane, or obscene language or gestures at any time prior to, during, or after a game
  • Baiting, taunting, or performing any other act (including a play during a game) that is intended or designed to embarrass, ridicule, or demean others, under any circumstance or reason, including on the basis of race, religion, gender, or national origin


Violations of our Code of Conduct by a player will result in consequences, which will determined by the head coach of the player's team and/or the BYL Board of Directors. A player will have the opportunity to discuss with his coach the facts involved in the violation before a decision is made regarding any disciplinary action to be imposed. Repeated or serious violations of the Code of Conduct may result in suspension or expulsion from the team and league.


Parents should foster the goals of the program. Parents will not act in a way that demonstrates disrespect for the game officials, players, coaches, board members, or parents of our teams and or of any opposing teams.

Outlined below is (i) your role as a parent, (ii) the communication process between parents and coaches, and (iii) a link to learn more about the game of lacrosse. 

Your Role as a Parent

  1. Be a positive role model.
  2. Show your child support, win or lose.
  3. Exercise control over any negative feelings or emotions.
  4. Be a supporter of the entire team, coaches, and BYL Board of Directors.
  5. Respect the coaches and officials.
  6. Communicate with the coaches in a positive manner.
  7. Encourage your child to set goals and develop a plan to achieve his goals.
  8. Recognize improved performance regardless of the game outcome.
  9. Do not engage in unsportsmanlike conduct (and recognize that league or BYL officials may ask you to leave a game for displaying unsportsmanlike behavior).
  10. Never criticize or ridicule your child or any other players regardless of the circumstance.
  11. Always ensure your child attends as many practices and games as possible and is on time.  
  12. Always inform the coaches in advance if your child cannot attend a practice or a game via Team Snap or otherwise. 
  13. A player who misses a significant amount of practices may experience less playing time in games.
  14. Be prompt in picking up your son after practice and games. 
  15. Please contact the head coach if there is an emergency.
  16. Do not coach your child during the game. 
  17. Let players play and coaches coach, and support both positively.
  18. Emphasize the FUN of the game and the team, and putting forth 100% effort at all times, regardless of the score or situation. 
  19. Refrain from using alcohol, tobacco, or illegal substances at all games.
  20. Follow the communication rules set forth below.

Communication between Parent and Coach

If a parent has a question and/or concern related to a coach's interaction with your son, or suggestions on improving his lacrosse experience, please follow the steps as outlined below:

  1. Email or call the appropriate coach to express your thoughts and/or concerns. If it is team placement or game related, please refrain from contacting the coach within 24 hours after the conclusion of the event.
  2. The player should first ask for a meeting between the coach and himself to discuss the issue at hand. In the case of players in Juniors or younger teams, parents may request the meeting. If the issue is of a very serious nature, the parent may call the coach directly.
  3. If the issue is unresolved, parents may ask for a meeting between themselves, the player, and the head coach to discuss the issue. The meeting should take place at a location considered adequate for a private discussion, NOT at a tournament, game, or practice.
  4. If the issue is unresolved, the parent will ask for a meeting with a BYL board member, the head coach, and the player.  A scheduled time away from practice, game, or a tournament is appropriate. The BYL board member will discuss the issue with the BYL board.  The decision of the BYL board at this point is FINAL.
  5. Please refrain from confronting a coach before or after a game, as this is not the appropriate time or place to deal with these matters.
  6. BYL coaches oversee the team placement process. If you or your son feels he has been placed incorrectly on a team, he should first have a discussion with the head coach of the team he is placed on. All related conversations are considered private and thus remain between the player, the player's parent, and coach. 
  7. Failure to comply with the above will result in a review of the incident by the BYL board, and possible suspension of the parent from future BYL events, as determined and enforced by the BYL board. Repeated or serious violations of the Code of Conduct by a parent may result in suspension or expulsion of the player from the team and league.


  1. I will "HONOR THE GAME" of lacrosse by teaching and practicing good sportsmanship at all games and practices. I understand that I am role model.
  2. I will act with the highest moral character possible.
  3. I will reinforce the self-image of each player. I will be positive and constructive.
  4. I will respect the game of lacrosse.
  5. I will respect the officials.
  6. I will teach the rules of lacrosse and abide by those rules in practices and games.
  7. I will establish objectives for the team and players and inform them of team and individual goals.
  8. I will emphasize the FUN of the game and the team, putting forth 100% effort at all times, regardless of the score or situation.
  9. I will be modest in victory and gracious in defeat.
  10. I will refrain from obscene language or gestures.
  11. I will not engage in unsportsmanlike conduct.

If a parent has an issue that cannot be settled directly with the coach, the coach shall direct him/her to a BYL board member for resolution. 

Failure to comply with the above will result in a review of the incident by the BYL board. Repeated or serious violations of the Code of Conduct by a coach may result in suspension or expulsion of the coach from the team and league.

Learn More

If you are new to boys' lacrosse and/or just want more information about the game and your role as a parent, please visit the Illinois Boys Lacrosse Association and the U.S. Lacrosse websites:

Additionally, as the Barrington 220 feeder program we follow the same Code of Conduct as BHS Lacrosse-

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